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Remembering Our Friends => In Memory Of => Topic started by: nice friend on October 26, 2008, 11:03:26 AM

Title: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: nice friend on October 26, 2008, 11:03:26 AM
Note, In Memory of Sajid Rauf ( He was the Man by the Window )

Hospital Window
Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same
hospital room.
One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour
each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.
His bed was next to the room's only window.
The other man had to spend all his time flat on his
back.
The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their
wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their
involvement in the military service, where they had
been on vacation.
Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window
could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to
his roommate all the things he could see outside the
window.
The man in the other bed began to live for those one
hour periods where his world would be broadened and
enlivened by all the activity and color of the world
outside.
The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks
and swans played on the water while children sailed
their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm
amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the
city skyline could be seen in the distance.
As the man by the window described all this in
exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the
room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque
scene .
One warm afternoon the man by the window described a
parade passing by.
Although the other man couldn't hear the band - he
could see it. In his mind's eye as the gentleman by
the window portrayed it with descriptive words.
Days and weeks passed.
One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for
their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man
by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep.
She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to
take the body away.
As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked
if he could be moved next to the window . The nurse
was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he
was comfortable, she left him alone.
Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow
to take his first look at the real world outside. He
strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside
the bed.
It faced a blank wall.
The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his
deceased roommate who had described such wonderful
things outside this window.
The nurse responded that the man was blind and could
not even see the wall.
She said, "Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you ."
 
Epilogue:
 
There is tremendous happiness in making others happy,
despite our own situations.
Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when
shared, is doubled.
If you want to feel rich, just count all the things
you have that money can't buy
.


Best Regards
Take Care
Umair
Title: Re: Hospital Window (Must read it , Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: Lyanne on October 26, 2008, 11:08:51 AM


      Wow what a nice story Umair thanks for posting that!!!!! :hugfriend
       Love it!
Title: Re: Hospital Window (Must read it , Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: nice friend on October 26, 2008, 11:18:31 AM
it is in memory of Sajid who were the man by the window for me  :sorrow
Title: Re: Hospital Window (Must read it , Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: Manal on October 26, 2008, 11:21:01 AM
Oh my God umair, i am so touched. May Sajid's soul rest in peace

manal
Title: Re: Hospital Window (Must read it , Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: Lyanne on October 26, 2008, 11:30:56 AM


     I agree with that Sajid has also made me see there's hope and encourage  me to be compliant with my medications(chelation and vitamins)
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: nice friend on October 26, 2008, 11:16:59 PM
Quote
I agree with that Sajid has also made me see there's hope and encourage  me to be compliant with my medications(chelation and vitamins)
He did the same for many peoples , he had a Great and Kind heart
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: maryo0m on October 27, 2008, 12:53:28 AM
great post

R.I.P Sajid
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: Sharmin on October 27, 2008, 01:43:48 AM
Umair,

That is so moving, it describes how I felt when I found out about Sajid passing.  I believe everyone had that feeling, he was so busy trying to fill our lives with hope and beauty but he never told us about the difficulties that he was actually facing.  He was the first one to offer support and advice when one of us needed it - but when asked about how he was doing he always cheerfully reported that he was fine. 

Missing you a lot Sajid it is beginning to feel like centuries since I last read your post  :sorrow :sorrow :sorrow

Sharmin
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: Zaini on October 27, 2008, 12:48:17 PM
Nice sharing Umair,Sajid was like a shining star for all of us,i am sure he is resting in Jannah inshallah.

Zaini.
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: Maako on October 27, 2008, 03:53:06 PM
Thank you for sharing umair :hugfriend.. Sajid was indeed a shining star.. He will always be that in our hearts  :sorrow
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: Dori on October 27, 2008, 06:25:15 PM
Beautiful story. Thank you for sharing, Umair. I'd only 2 chats with Sajid, but readl lots of his posts. He really touched me. I miss him too.
Title: WE TAKE NOTHING WITH US WHEN WE DIE BUT WE LEAVE ALOUT
Post by: aysam on October 27, 2008, 10:47:30 PM
umair this so
 true
wow
heart breaking and to true
you know we are all going to die one day
its part of life
its not how much you buy what you have
what you have left  that peolpe will rememmber you
by
its what you said what deeds you did who you have helped
its weird but some reson when somene dies you always seem to remmeber the good things they have done

but never say OH he had money he had a car a house so on
they will say he was good   he helpled me
we miss him becuse he said this
 and done this
i will love peolpe to remember be
for what did not what i have

and how much i have


NOWNE CAN TAKE ANYTHING WITH THEM
BUT YOU AN LEAVE ALOUT
THE ONLY THING YOU CAN TAKE IS WHAT YOU HAVE LEFT

remmemebr we live for 100 years for example but we die for ever so short life
tell peolpe you love them dont hold hate towards them
alway in your mind imajine if this is the last day of your life what would you do who will you see what will you say
and i am sure you will make the best of each day and have no enamys no hate no back stabing all love and forgvness

 :smiley
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: Sharmin on October 27, 2008, 11:29:13 PM
Mariam,

How beautifully said :) 

Sharmin
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: nice friend on October 28, 2008, 10:06:21 AM
Hi Mariam ,
You are absolutely right .. i like your words that you have with us in your post ... thank you for sharing your view ,yeah  its true that , it doesnt matter how much money you have .. thing that is we all  have to go one day , and all those thing will remain here .. we will go only with our deeds .. our wealth will remain in this world , thats why i consider that real wealth is wat we can take with us after our death that is our deed our good works .. everyone has to left his/her memories in this world for the people he/she know ... some left good and some bad ofcourse who left good memories people will pray for him after him and people will remember him for a long time , thats wat real success is ... thats wat i want ... thats wat real goal is and thats wat Sajid achieved , ..
May Give him High Ranks in Jannah  ( Jannat-al-Firdous ) .. May his soul rest in Peace .. Ameen

Best Regards
Take Care
Umair
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: aysam on October 28, 2008, 01:08:51 PM
aysam is every breath i take
every haert beat i make
he is my little man
my best freind
my son my heart
he is half of me i am complete with him
so to even imajine not haveing aysam is not haveing me
i have nothing
i love him so so
much that i have become sick
when he was born i never took him out of the room
why?
so he wouldnt catch anything how stupid was i
aysam has everything he wants everything he askes for
but one thing i cant give him is  his health
you know  what before aysam was born all i used to think and talk and mention was money
money i used to say was happineess and gety you things you get respect
money is power
ha
i dont think like this now
now no money can cure aysam
so money is nothing i have lernt alout in life from aysam been sick
money buys you things not happeinss not love not health
aysam is os smart for a 2 year old he talks and know s everything
he has convesations and all and he si checky
he tricks me plays with my heart every day aysam gows outside picks a flower and gives it to me and says moring mummy
how sweet
i think he dose this to get what he wants
if aysam just looks at somethinhg i will get it for him aysam has a computer so i am  sure when aysam knows how to type and spell he will be the one replying and thanking all you guys
for support and alll your careing hearts and souls
but i wish i can but him one thing its health
so money is nothing
you are rich in your head and poor in your head
not your  pockets
if you are rich in your head its meens you have big hearts big brains good person this
a rich person
a poor person isnt there pockets
its there heads also you could have millons
no heart no brain
no love
so you are pooor in your  thinking
this is what i say
when somene asks me have you got money i say yes
even if i dont i say i am riich





Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: aysam on October 28, 2008, 01:46:40 PM
my l little man aysam wants to thank you guys for the support fo his
 mother wich is me
hehe  :rotfl
i thinnk he must think i am mad aysam is so so
spolied from both granpearnnts uncles unties me dad sisters
aysam is out of controll  :nope
i think i need to get some help here
 yestaday aysam aksed me for a motor bike um no not the toy one the real thing  :huh
i said aysam you still a baby he said no aysam not baby aysam big mucels
aysam big boy  :banghead
he makes me smile laugh wake up in the morning  :grin :hey
he is a crazzy kid
he is to spolied i am worried now there will be a time when i cant ever say no
and if i do aysam wont be used to it  :wah
do you guys think i am overboard i know everyone loves there children unconditoanly
but i have no borders i never say no 
aysam gets what aysam wants and he knows it  :happydance
you kwno he is so smart when he sees me going somewere he says mummy asyam put seat belt and sits at the back when i get in the car he dosnt
and he laughs as if to say i got you  :rotfl
haha
and trick me
i just wantted to share  abit of my life
with you guys
tell me what your kids do to you  :-\

kids are checky they have ther ways
and when aysam dont get what he wants he say aysam not love mummy
mmmmmmmmm sounds like he is useing and abusing me  :wink
hahaha my other kids fight over who will change him whio will feed him who will play with him
and he loves the attention  :laugh
aysam sleeps on the big quoeen size bed while i sleep on the floor so he dosnt get sqaushed he sleeps like a king but he isnt a brat you know the kids who scream and yell and chuck tantrams when they dont get what they want
no he dose it diffrent he will giive you a puppy look
or tell you he loves you
pick you flower
scratch your back
he is a gentalmen
haha
sometimes he is meen to me he say fat mama
its so funny
how funny he is so young to know all this and so funny
my girl freinds actully come to my
place just to take aysam out they love him so much they actully put him in a convortibale and pick him up from childacre and take him for drives oh with aysam at the front
 seat sitting lke a king in the passengers seat they all think he is so
 adorable and eatable everyone loves aysam
i wish in one year or more aysam will be here chatting with all you guys
please everyone pray for him :sick
please its just a shame that such a cute and smart out going  boy that has so much to look forwerd for can be so sick all the time not just with thala but we basickly live at the hostpital
i want him to go to parks and play and be normal
i cant belive how strong he is
he is pale and yellow and liver and kidney oh and he had sever osa life threating one
he stops breathing and so many other problems
can be as he is
you wouldnt even think he is sick with a flu or virus
all your prays are nedded
for my baby
i have told you guys so much about him so you can all see what i am liveing and seeing everyday
 :heartred


Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: aysam on October 28, 2008, 01:53:36 PM
every one take a look at this

www.youtube.com and type in

18 month old baby who stops breathing while asleeo
this is aysam
11 months ago you are all going to be shocked
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: Sharmin on October 28, 2008, 02:56:31 PM
Dear Mariam,

The way you describe Aysam sounds just as adorable as the pictures we see.  Yes, we are all in love with you little boy and we are so eager to hear that things are on track with him.  We all want for him to get better very soon - our prayers are with you. 

God bless the little man,

Sharmin
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: Zaini on October 28, 2008, 05:09:49 PM
 :kissy :kissy :kissy :kissy

We love you Aysam  :hugfriend

Zaini.
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: nice friend on October 28, 2008, 08:02:21 PM
Hi Marium ,
Have some  courage sis , i understand wat you are going through , i hope he will get  well soon .. theere is a message for you , you may also find this message in my profile ...

human being's all problems are just due to 2 reasons:

1) he wants more than destiny
2) he wants all those things before time

Best Regards
Take Care
Umair
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: Manal on October 29, 2008, 02:31:20 AM
Mariam, i am sure that God will answer all our prayers :hugfriend


Umair, i feel that these days you have grown 10 years more than your age. Though i love the quote and it is very true,but i get the feeling ou are not so well, hope i am wrong

manal
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: Sharmin on October 29, 2008, 02:34:53 AM
Umair,

I also love the quote.

Manal,

I agree with you - Umair has become even more mature in the past little while.  And I share your concern - Umair, I hope that you are well! 

Sharmin
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: nice friend on October 29, 2008, 09:45:53 AM
Hi Manal & Sharmin ,
i have mentioned in many previous posts of mine , that when people talk to me after discussion they said many times 
Quote
he is quite mature than his age
i
it is the compliment i heard alots of times and i realy enjoy this alot everytime .... :grin
you may find it in my previous posts ... about my healt , i m fit n fine :thumbsup .. i will upload my recent pic once i take that :grin to give an evidence that i m super fine and enjoying my self ...
about the qoute , it is a good saying of Imaam Ghazaali , i got it in an SMS , one of my Relative sent it to me . it was in Urdu , i sent it to a person who is in my MSN list , that person translated it in english as i want :wink ...  its the story  of it ...  i m looking for the permisioon of that person to write his/her name  here on , as i once once writed Tariq's name in my post when he did the same for me ..... hey that person if you see this post please reply or tell me to disclose your name . if you want ...

Best Regards
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: Manal on October 29, 2008, 10:24:11 AM
I am happy to know that everything is going well Umair. :wink

manal
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: nice friend on October 29, 2008, 12:30:42 PM
in my last post , i was trying to say that,  i m not  a mature  and won't to be as well .  i want to be a teenager as i look's alike :grin A Little Naughty/kiddy  Boy hehehe :grin ... i m still that Umair who began posting a few months ago .... a little super dumb like  something , who love to tease and then laugh haahahaha but a little Serious behvior is another side of Personalty ... humm idont know its good or bad but sometimes i turn's to realy serious about life and other matters . .i dont know why i have two extreme levvels of behavior , which are completely different .... well i m o always .. it look like i m not doing well but here is nothing like that, i m super fine and feeling much better than before (when i joined this community) , and improving/recovering very quickly .   i dont feel anything bad about the life. i always try to a find the positive side of every thing ( as Sajid said : he love to talk about the lighter side of the everything) something like Thalassemia protects from Malaria like something .... thanx for keeping me in your thought and prayers ...

Take care
Umair

Edited : onething that i found is changed in me is , now i m capable to write long posts :winks
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: Sharmin on October 29, 2008, 02:55:07 PM
Umair,

Good to hear that bud - you keep taking care of yourself - you are right you have come a looooong way since you began posting here and we are so proud of you for what you have accomplished.  It shows that it is never too late to turn things around. 

It's good to be either serious or funny - in between would be boring  :wink

Take care,

Sharmin
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: nice friend on October 29, 2008, 07:33:32 PM
 :grin Thanx Sis ,
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: nice friend on March 29, 2009, 12:34:18 PM
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Today, I Am Missing Him Alot , i m miissing a person who were always there to help to understand and then convey/explain wat i wanted to say in my posts... who where always there to hear me and to discuss my ideas share's his as well .. who were always there to talk me and to answer my concerns regarding to  anything .. a person who was the " Man at the window for me " today i m feeling like the other man who changed his bed to the bed which was near the window ... today i m feeling like this Teddy bear looking out-side (wall ) sad and alone ... i cant forget those threads t i discussed to Sajid to post or not and to explain wat i realy willing to say ..  I Miss You Buddy , when you was with us, i never felt alone like this ... i was left using MSN and PC , i came back on it bcoze of you ... it was bcome's my habbit to turn on PC and sign-on msn when-ever i felt bored and sad , when you was with us ... the pic of the teddy bear i dont know if i m posting it 2nd time but it's wat i feel, it is closest picture of wat i feel for you .... Buddy, i still remember many of our chats , and i cant forget those chats ..... you was the only one to whom i ever talked very freely , i always felt free while talking to you ... you was the ideal friend, i was searching for ... i lost a person&freind who was the same i wished to have as a friend .. cant forget yo buddy, and cant controle my tears when-ever i think of your Sweet memories ... it was my dream to meet you in-person , but never had a chance to make it true ( My bad luck/fate ) .. i dont know why i cried when you passed away, when i was soo strong and not cried when i lost my friend ( thal center's friend )... i dont know and cant believe that i m cryied and still crying time to time for someone, i never met in-person ....

May ALLAH(God) Bless you with high ranks in Jannah, and you soul rest in Peace AMEEN ( Thuma AMEEN)

Umair
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: Kathy11 on March 29, 2009, 10:35:55 PM
Dear Umair,

You're are not alone  we are all here to support you, :grouphug :grouphug :grouphug :grouphug

I'm certain that "Sagid" reads all your postings and is very proud of you.
Have faith, that there are    guardian Angels that has befriended you and is filling his place in your life.
 By the way you look so cute next to the window. :hugfriend
For whats its worth, I care about you.

Be strong  we are here,
Lots of love from Kathy
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: Manal on March 29, 2009, 10:38:47 PM
Umair
May his soul rest in peace  :sorrow :sorrow you are right he can not be forgotten> He is forever in our hearts :sorrow :sorrow

manal
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: Sharmin on March 30, 2009, 03:25:39 AM
Dear Umair,

Sajid is always here with us.  You do such an excellent job of carrying on his work.  Please don't feel alone - because not only do you have Sajid with you, you have all of us  :hugfriend :hugfriend 

Take care my friend,

Sharmin
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: nice friend on March 30, 2009, 03:41:24 AM
Kathy, Manal & Sharmin,
Thank you All for your words and support that strengthen me.... but its a believeable but true reality that he's not with ur to talk to us, he is no more at the other end to kill/pass time by doing chat .. its realy hard to believe but its truth, i still cant believe as i din't when i first heard thaat news ... when-ever i see any forward message which he sent me , that make me thinking of him ....
May ALLAH (GOD) give him high ranks in Jannah ........

Umair
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: Madhavi on August 31, 2009, 01:21:34 AM
Sajid...
Khuda ko bhi fikr thi itni...(Divinity worried too...)
Socha zamee pe nahi pyaar kaafi...(Love on earth didnt suffice...)
Bula liya bande ko apni khidmat mein...(They recalled their angel...)
Nahi us jaisa shaayad aur koi saathi...(A friend like him tough to find...)

Phir socha hamare baare mein usne...(The heavens remembered us all, then...)
Rakh di fir ye site, yaadein, baatein...(Left us this site, memories, discussions...)
Tab aisa laga ki itna bura nahi khuda...(So I thought He isnt that insensitive...)
Nikalta hai suraj jab katati hain raatein!(The day dawns after the nights in succession...)

Uske saath salaamat rahega, khush rahega...(He will be happy and safe there...)
Wo farishtaa jo hamein chu gaya...(...that angel who touched us...)
Hain yahin pe kahin hamesha wo chamakta sitara...(He is around that shining star...)
Dekh lo aasma-nahi wo duur gaya...(Look uip in the sky, he hasnt left us...)

Sorry about the previous post in urdu/hindi....have added the translation......
Madhavi
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: Zaini on August 31, 2009, 05:51:46 AM
Madhavi  :hugfriend

Zaini.
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: KHALIFA on September 11, 2009, 01:34:14 AM
رحمة الله عليك    يا ساجد
Title: Re: Hospital Window, In Memory of Sajid (Don't Forget to read Completely )
Post by: laiba mukhtar on September 13, 2009, 04:36:35 AM
wow what a nice story.........i am so touched         thanks for sharing it.
laiba
take care