Thalassemia Patients and Friends
Discussion Forums => Greetings => Topic started by: Dori on December 29, 2009, 10:14:48 AM
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Hi Friends,
I would like to know what your New Year Resolutions are. In that way we can support and help each other even better to achieve their goals.
Mine are:
learning good Spanish
meeting some of you in Berlin
getting the ferritin really under control and let it be my slave
and making new real friends outside the viritual world. (Dont worry I wont forget my friends here)
Now it's your turn!
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My goal for new year would be .... hmmm :think becoming a good Muslim annndddddddd,becoming a successful makeup artist :biggrin and to become a patient and humble mother (this seems kinda impossible though :rotfl ).
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really good thread...
mine goals are:
1. to take care of Najaf in a better way
2. to complete my Engg. degree with CGPA
3. to maintain my CGPA (although it looks a lot difficult to achieve)
4. to get a job at the end of this year....
Abbas
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MY GOALS ARE:
**. "A good Muslim" (mee too Zaini) :)
1. Get my M.B.A degree with majors in Human Resource Management (Its my second last semester going)
2. Get a real good job hopefully in East.
3. Networking.
4. Arrange some blood camps for Fatimid (Some are in pipeline though).
5. Get some real good and expenxive perfumes for myself (I'm crazy for 'em).
6. Buy some stuff for my mom n dad from my first pay and do some charity too.
7. And change my car, maybe on lease... :dunno
8. AND GET MARRIED.... :rotfl
9. Rest of the Resolutions are in thinking process.
Fouad
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Fouad,
Don't buy your car on lease bro,and you know why i am saying that,just wait till you can buy it yourself.as they say "sabar ka phal meetha " :wink .
Zaini.
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New year time is resolution time.....
Plan to write in here...the mind is too boggled at the moment to think straight and sane!
Interesting topic and I do want to write in here...btw...what does being a good muslim entail?
Madhavi
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Here goes nothing:
1) Become fluent in Japanese language (so that I can flirt with japanese girls :rotfl :rotfl)
2) Beat umair in feritin level :biggrin
3) Take my family for Umrah
4) Get promoted at work
5) Force my company to give me a new car :wink
6) Try being nice to everyone (the toughest :dunno)
Notice: Above points are subject to change without prior notice, ofcourse I deserve the right to do so if circumstances arise :rotfl
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Fouad,
Don't buy your car on lease bro,and you know why i am saying that,just wait till you can buy it yourself.as they say "sabar ka phal meetha " :wink .
Zaini.
Zaini,
Gee baji i definitely got your point, and will sternly act upon your advise.
Rightly said, "sabr ka phal meetha" :)
Fouad
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Madhavi,
I am not a Muslim but I think being a good Muslim has to do with following the five Pillars of Islam:
1.Shahadah: profession of faith
2.Salat: prayers
3.Sawm:fasting during Ramadan
4.Zakat:giving to the poor
5.Hajj:pilgrimage to Mecca.
Lena.
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1.Shahadah: profession of faith
2.Salat: prayers
3.Sawm:fasting during Ramadan
4.Zakat:giving to the poor
5.Hajj:pilgrimage to Mecca.
Lena.
Yes the aforementioned are the five pillars of Islam as Lena has said.
It could be more clear by the following.
A Good Muslim means:
1. To worship Allah (God) alone and to bring faith on Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W)
2. To be respectful and kind to parents
3. To be good to relatives, to the poor, and to travelers
4. To be careful with money and not waste resources
5. To take good care of children
6. To steer clear of adultery and illicit relations
7. To respect every life and not to kill anyone unless in the pursuit of justice
8. To take care of the orphans
9. To fulfill promises and commitments
10. To be honest in business dealings
11. To act upon knowledge and not follow hearsay or act on half-truths
12. To be humble and have no arrogance
These principles are not limited to one race, tribe, or group; they are "universal" in their scope and application. These are also called the teachings of wisdom. If followed properly, they are capable of increasing the goodness and wisdom of all people.
I hope I am a little able, now, in describing what a true muslim means...
Fouad
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You have helped us a lot, Fouad. Thank you.
Lena.
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Lena,
Thanks for your input,its totally correct :hugfriend .
Madhavi,
Fouad has explained it quite well :) .
Zaini.
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@ Tariq,
u'll beat me in Fe race in soon future , Insha-ALLAH ...
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hmmmmmmmmmmmm........................ ( that mean's work in progress :grin :rotfl ) ....
Umair
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Thanks Lena and Fouad.............
I am sure it is not just bound by religion and applies to each one so that they become a good human being!
God bless us all....
Madhavi
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Thanks Madhavi and Lena
Fouad
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Dear Friends,
I agree with Madhavi's Comment.
By the way My New Year Resolution is
1. To improve my patience level ;D
2. To cook many varieties of food that my kids will relish.
3. To Reduce my weight and become slim and trim like my kids :grin
4. To join for a Post Graduate degree by correspondence.
5. To identify the people who really need help and offer what ever help i can.
6. To Live as a Good Human being.
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Madhavi,
Of course its not bound by a religion and i think this is what all religions teach,so does Islam,being a good human being is a part of being a good Muslim. :yes
Zaini.
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1 - permision of driving
2 - driving liscence
3 - to join my father n bro in busines
4 - taking good care of my health
5 - being less dependent n more independent in taking care of myself ...
6 - to be more responsible n taking my responsiblities on my own ..
7 - wil ltry to stand on my feet in every front of life ...
will update more, soon ...
Umair
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1- making more friends in thal center
2- making more thalpals
3- making more friends ...
4- after standing on my feet n being established in life , to do something for thals ...
5- to do something , for wat people keep me in their hearts forever :) ..... i will try my best ...
wil lupdte more
Umair
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Best of luck with ur new year resolutions, Umair.........
Abbas
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Yes the aforementioned are the five pillars of Islam as Lena has said.
It could be more clear by the following.
A Good Muslim means:
1. To worship Allah (God) alone
2. To be respectful and kind to parents
3. To be good to relatives, to the poor, and to travelers
4. To be careful with money and not waste resources
5. To take good care of children
6. To steer clear of adultery and illicit relations
7. To respect every life and not to kill anyone unless in the pursuit of justice
8. To take care of the orphans
9. To fulfill promises and commitments
10. To be honest in business dealings
11. To act upon knowledge and not follow hearsay or act on half-truths
12. To be humble and have no arrogance
These principles are not limited to one race, tribe, or group; they are "universal" in their scope and application. These are also called the teachings of wisdom. If followed properly, they are capable of increasing the goodness and wisdom of all people.
I hope I am a little able, now, in describing what a true muslim means...
Fouad
My conclusion: All humans should follow rule 2 -12. In that case we are all the same.
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I agree that these rules go for all.
Only in no 7 I would wipe out "unless in the pursuit of justice".
Lena.
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I agree that these rules go for all.
Only in no 7 I would wipe out "unless in the pursuit of justice".
Lena.
I am sorry Lena. Ofcourse without "unless in the pursuit of justice".
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I agree. The world would be a much better place if the commandment "Thou shalt not kill" was never allowed any asterisks (*).
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Ahmad plz either stop posting in urdu or provide a full translation.
What you wanted to say was "Umair thinks he'll live till only 25 years of age and you are trying to make him understand and he is not listening and you want us to help" ??
I really don't understand we have never seen Umair talk like that,so its kinda confusing,i think only Umair can clear that up.
And plz again stop posting in urdu.
Zaini.
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sis this is only for you cuz i respect u more than any other member of thalpal
so i ve deleted the post but i didnt knew that sit policy so now im aware ill try to post in english
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Knowing Umair, and having much admiration and respect for him I know that he is a very intelligent, responsible and caring individual. I think that he knows that thalassemia patients can live long, productive and healthy lives. He has made many efforts to improve and change his situation. He has also encouraged others to change their lives because he knows the benefits.
I think that the struggles he faces are those due to damage that has occurred before the intense chelation such as diabetes, hep, osteoporosis and life choices that were necessary at the time due to particular situations. His intense chelation and success in changing his life is an example for all of us here. Looking at his pictures from the recent conference show how wonderful he looks and what he has achieved. Although the chelation has reduced his iron levels very significantly, further chelation will be required to remove iron deposits from the organs. His frustration is normal because he has worked hard, reduced his ferritin miraculously - yet he has not seen the benefits to his quality of life. Once the iron is removed from his organs he will see the benefits. I think also that once his hep is under control and iron stores from organs are depleted his diabetes and other problems will be alleviated. Until then, frustration is normal - because intense chelation is tiresome and uncomfortable.
I think that Umair is incredibly courageous and he has always had a very positive attitude and wonderful sense of humor about everything - his positive attitude will be restored once he is able to reap the rewards of his hard work.
Until then, we as his friends can support him and remind him. The very last thing Umair wants is to discourage anyone else because he truly believes that thalassemia patients can have full and productive lives - we just have to remind him that he can too - and we have to be prepared to help him get there.
Umair, I hope that this is a true representation of what you are encountering. Please feel free to correct or supplement this post in whatever way.
Sharmin
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hI YA aLL,,,
i m fit n fine .. n will update u wll tommorow with details.. actuly dj wanted to say someting else but my promise was a hurdle for him to to say that directly .. he realy wanted to help me and he was really trying to help me , he is trying hard to change my mind set .. Andy know's the story and Andy tried as well t change my mind over that issue , but unfortunately till now i didn't make up my mind but now that issue is closed since a few week.. although that issue is over now, but i m taking that as indication that i have to think seriously about life.. n i will ...
Djockey ,
thanx Dj for trying to bring-up that topic her , but dude its too late for now ... .. and yeah as u want to see me i will b a super good inspiration/example for thals , that they can come back in life even from wheelchair :) ... so dont worry, Djockey i m not gonna give-up and it was nothing like that .... the context/background/scene was completely different my dear ...
i will try to post more under this topic ... but , i want to clear this ASAP that Dj wanted to help me , and he was trying to help , so he was calling u people to help him for his cause ... but again , i m strong man , wil lnot give-up , NEVER .... 25 yrs , lolzzz , u may check all my posts since the time i m on thalpal , i never bellieved on this ... if u want then i can send u the links of the post in which i wrote alot against this ..... there was a big IF in that conversation .. wil try to xplain this a lil more.. i m posting this in hurry , had to go , but m here to just share this fact that Dj wanted to help me without any wrong intention ....
Best Regards
Take Care
Umair
i hope no one will bring up that isue again .. and plz cremain that chapter closed .. :)
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I think attending the conference was also a good thing for our Umair. Meeting everyone is great and gives new depth to the friendships. I think his doctor calling him over because she was so proud of his accomplishments has not gone unnoticed by Umair. All in all,I think our buddy is back on track now. :thumbsup
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thanx dude for clearing that i was not confusing anybody.On this incident i want to share something
2 years back when i realized that i cant continue my school because of my heart problem,arthiritis and many other problems including at that time my mother was also ill she was bed hidden because of tinnitus and she tried to commite........ something thrice in her unconsious state.and on that tym our family was fallin apart and now i knew that theres no other way than to quit school and give o levels papers privately while i was at home i joined thalpal so i can take good care of my self so at that difficult time i wont get ill and cause any further problems to my family so during my thalpal era i found a new friend actually im proud to call him my best friend umair who gave me inspiration to live he was so full of life and was havin very postive attitude towards every aspect of llife than we began to chat every night for a whole night and day by day i began to come back to life actually it was like i was healing but than after some time i discovered somethin is wrong abt this fellow hes not the same umair i met so i tried to talk to him that what he was bothering about and when he told me i tried to convience him but when matter got out of my hands i came here to u people.you see i cant just see a peson fallin apart who supported me at time when i thought life is over for me.
AND one more thing because of umair i gave my 4 papers this nov and ill gave rest 4 in may and will be done with my o levels
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and last of all thanks sharmin sis ur the only person who understood how to encounter this problem and dealt it in exact fasion as it should be dealt.
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DJ,
I completely understand how you feel and your desire to help Umair. You are being a true thalpal :hugfriend :hugfriend
Sharmin
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Dear Sharmin....
Did anyone tell you that you are one of the loveliest things that could happen to thalpal?
Wanted to say much more but.... not too much of reading between the lines either....just :hugfriend :hugfriend :hugfriend and some more :hugfriend..........
God bless you.....you are an example to many....
Madhavi
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Ahmed ,
I am so sorry to hear about happened in past with you,but i am glad you picked yourself up,and now you are on your way to success,i am really happy for you,and with your positive attitude i can see a bright future ahead for you, :hugfriend so plz continue your studies,our prayers will always be with you :hugfriend ,
Zaini.
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Dear Ahmad,
its nice to hear that u r back to life with the help of Umair,
umair is really a "nice friend" there is no doubt about it............
best of luck with ur studies,,,,
Abbas
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Ahmed,
you made me Blushing :$ ...
i did nothing, my Friend .. it was you who made that all , you succesfuly made that bcoze you wanted/willing to make that bcoze you was dreaming to complete your O-Level.... you're a strong boy and actuly it wsn't me who helped you it was your inner strong boy who was helping you to make things possible ... i just helped u finding that Strong boy in you, but all in all it was ur effort , ur self determination , ur will power and ur strong comitment , it was you, buddy... its was the real Ahmed, Strong and Determined... b sure that , its you who made that ....remember onething , nobody can help u if u refuse's to help urself, so , in case u r not willing to help urself to get out of any bad-patch , no one cna take u out of that .... so, it was completely ur effort , my friend ..... i remember that wat said in conversation that wasn't good but that was in a context , there was a background for all that, there was a big IF factor in that , and all that was in a different backround .. othervice , i m taking my medicine at time Chelation is ON as prescripted and soon i m going to start hep-C treatment ...
so, everything is OK here with me :) ..... .... n yeah , onething you're one of my Best Friend :) hmmmmm Super Best Friend :) ........ :) .......
Abbas ,
:$ ... (wat can i say more :grin ).... it was his effort and self determination that He found real n strong Ahmed in his self , so he is here with us sucessfuly completing his O-Level and moving on the way to succes ... i believe that ,
"we all are very strong and built to face the xtreme condiitions and capable to survive to those situations , all we have to do is to find the inner strong man which is hidden in us ,,, in other words all we have to do is to , polishing our inner Gem " .....
Best Regards
Take Care
Umair
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Andy,
:yeahthat Yeah , i m back Again :p ... :laughspit
Umair
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Welcome back!
:wavey
Ok, My New Year Resolutions...
1. To put on some weight, and to exercise regularly, even if its a few minutes.
2. To Smile More and Stress Less.
3. To Listen More and Talk Less.
4. To be grateful for what I have instead of being sad over what I lack.
5. There are many other things, but i could post as and when i achieve them! :-) Else I'm going to feel guilty at the end of the year, about how many resolutions I broke!
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@ Preety ,
Thanx :) ....
Umair
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Dear Sharmin....
Did anyone tell you that you are one of the loveliest things that could happen to thalpal?
Wanted to say much more but.... not too much of reading between the lines either....just :hugfriend :hugfriend :hugfriend and some more :hugfriend..........
God bless you.....you are an example to many....
Madhavi
Dear Madhavi,
Thank you so much for such a huge compliment. I think that everyone here has been a gift to one another. The courage with which you have gone through Mohanish's transplant is definitely something we can all learn from. Many :hugfriend :hugfriend :hugfriend :hugfriend to you and your adorable children.
Ahmad,
I am also sorry to hear about what you have had to endure in the past, and very very proud of how you were able to move forward and carve better things for yourself. I wish you all the best in your studies.
Umair,
Welcome back buddy!!
Sharmin
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Sharmin, you wrote a wonderful letter!!
Goodnight Thalpal Family,
Dore
p.s. I was reminded (sp?) of it today that we should only do the things we really want to do and like. (This was especially said b/c the chronical ill part of life).
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:hugfriend How can we ever get over each other at this site....so much love here...wish we could spread it more to the people who dont understand its importance and lead themselves astray.....
About the things that we like....it is indeed a great fortune, Dore if we can do whatever we like in this lifetime...so often people are just forced to like what they do!Hope this year makes us honestly happy with ourselves and whatever we do!
Madhavi
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:hugfriend How can we ever get over each other at this site....so much love here...wish we could spread it more to the people who dont understand its importance and lead themselves astray.....
About the things that we like....it is indeed a great fortune, Dore if we can do whatever we like in this lifetime...so often people are just forced to like what they do!Hope this year makes us honestly happy with ourselves and whatever we do!
Madhavi
Hope so ....
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Hi,
I want to continue being a good friend, a god daugther and a good sister. I'd like to have a relationschip with the person I'm starting to be in love to and I'd like to keep my job.
A part from that, I'd like to meet Dore in Madrid in February (I'm trying to see how can I do it) and I also want to travel to Nottingham and Paris before summer.
Wish you all the best on this new year.
Kind regards,
Laura.
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Ahmed,
keep on hitting the ball and making the goals. :)
Fouad
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Ahhh, my fault! It's now that I read what Laura said! I was almost going to buy me a ticket for Rock in Rio, but I decided that it was better to watch it at TVE (if they air it :pray ). So now we don't have that second chance. Oh well, you never know where the ship comes.
As for my new year resolutions, I prefer not to reread them again... Tidieee! :) :biggrin
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Dore,
I don't really know if it's going to be transmited on TVE. I think last year they did but I'm not sure.
Kisses,
Laura.
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Hey Laura,
Thankfully there was a live stream. It felt like camping though but I had a blast behind my screen (pc). I was able to watch Glastonbury live on tv. Such nights are legendary. Her tourdatas for Europe where annouced today (www.shakiramedia.com). I think I will visit only once concert in my own country. The last tiem I attend also two concerts in Germany. I secretly dreamed about going to Madrid but I do not think that will happen. I do not even care about it (yet :biggrin) if my uni organised another spanish course in Spain I will try to join it again. It is every year in another city.