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Discussion Forums => Living with Thalassemia => Topic started by: Andy Battaglia on May 03, 2011, 12:04:29 AM

Title: Never Feel Guilty For Being A Parent
Post by: Andy Battaglia on May 03, 2011, 12:04:29 AM

I just saw this on Facebook. It's from a sickle cell parent but its words apply well here, also.

https://www.facebook.com/notes/scd-out-of-the-darkness-in-to-the-light/never-feel-guilty-for-being-a-parent/181266028592672

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Never Feel Guilty For Being A Parent
by SCD Out of the Darkness & in to the Light on Thursday, April 28, 2011 at 11:29pm

Do you feel like sometimes your child’s doctors make you feel bad when u don’t want to try a medicine/procedure or something else they suggest? Do you sometimes feel "guilted" into making decisions for your child that you may not be comfortable with?

These are not easy decisions that we are asked to make for our KIDS! Because the doctor's are in an authoritative position, they expect us to go along with whatever they decide, but no one knows our children as we do. Sometimes we need to talk it over with the lord & not just the doctor’s before we make potentially life changing decisions for our kids.

As a parent of a child with sickle cell it is already easy to find yourself consumed & filled with so much guilt. Guilt for every crisis, fever, surgery, transfusion, stick for an IV, missed opportunity, every can't do this, can't do that, every pill, every poke, every cry, every scream, every tear, every fear, every challenge, every heartache, every disappointment, EVERYTHING feels like it is your fault. We DON'T need any extra guilt from outsiders!

God blessed us with these kids because he knew we would be strong enough to help them to get through it all. We can't always stand by on the sidelines and let the doctor’s act as the parent. This is how people end up with unnecessary procedures. We have to constantly keep being advocates for our kids and along the way teach them how to eventually become advocates for themselves. Never feel guilty for being a parent and taking the time to make the best decision for YOUR child.

Title: Re: Never Feel Guilty For Being A Parent
Post by: Sharmin on May 03, 2011, 04:11:47 AM

Thank you for this Andy.

Sharmin

Title: Re: Never Feel Guilty For Being A Parent
Post by: Supergirl on May 03, 2011, 04:21:43 AM

Thanks Andy...
Felt good to read in words what we keep reminding ourselves every other day.

SK

Title: Re: Never Feel Guilty For Being A Parent
Post by: Zaini on May 04, 2011, 03:30:52 AM

Thanks a lot Andy,it was much needed.

Zaini.

Title: Re: Never Feel Guilty For Being A Parent
Post by: Katias Mummy on May 31, 2011, 12:32:04 PM

Thanks Andy, this is so deep and meaningful. It actually brought tears to my eyes as this is how I have been feeling.

Title: Re: Never Feel Guilty For Being A Parent
Post by: kenemy on June 13, 2011, 11:29:43 AM

THANKS ANDY...